CANDID TALK

what we don't say out loud.

August 4, 2016
by Kate Mwamba
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Marriage 101

Year two of marriage and here I am on the verge of literally giving up and letting go. Who said marriage was going to be easy?  Every time i am on Facebook more of my friends are getting married and … Continue reading

June 29, 2016
by Kate Mwamba
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A famous saying goes thus: “If you want to go fast, go alone, but if you want to go further, go with others.” Another one says that, “He who travels alone goes fast, but he who travels with others goes further.” I would like to remind you again that if you really want to go beyond the limits in your life, you only need three things: people, people and more people.

The struggle between the book smarts and the street smart

The struggle between the book smarts and the street smart

In my past experience as a credit officer I had many chances of interacting with all sorts of business persons and I can tell you for free that most successful and influential business persons are not book smart but street smart. The stories of success are most humbling yet they upheld a vision and sought the opportunities in smart way. In a book written by Robert Kiyosaki titled, Why A Students Work for C Students and B Students Work for the Government.  Simply explains that because C students are known to be street smart and charming. They are very good with people and very good with numbers. They can easily influence and are convincing because they have what I call ‘likability.’ They are likable and like people too; they know how to treat people, respect them and make them feel valued. They are less egocentric and more people empowering. They understand the universal truth that the greatest desire of every human being is to feel important, and whenever they interact with others, they apply this law. They make others feel superior to them and in the process, find their way around them, cross all barriers, go beyond limits and reach the summit of their potential.

Examples the late, great Steve Jobs dropped out of school before graduating. Thomas Jefferson dropped out after only a few months of formal education. John D. Rockefeller dropped out of high school two months before his graduation and decided to go off and start a little company called Standard Oil. Walt Disney, Richard Branson, Elton John, James Cameron, Frank Lloyd Wright all dropped out of school to pursue their passions. These are just a few names on a very long list of brilliant or ambitious individuals who gave lackluster performances in the classroom but crushed it in real life!

We know now that there are many different types of intelligence and grades only measure a select few, and poorly at that. A GPA does not measure a person’s emotional intelligence, it does not measure their leadership ability, it does not necessarily measure their ability to think outside of the box and solve problems. It does nothing to evaluate a person’s ability to predict the needs of society or consumers. It does nothing to illuminate the ability of an individual to work with others and find middle ground in standoffs or conflicts. All of these things are vitally important to an individual’s success in life and almost none of them are measured by grades. Grades, GPAs and standardized test scores largely measure one’s ability to answer questions and regurgitate information and not much else.

Think about this. Throughout history, legendary leaders have had great people skills. Your people skills will take you to places where your brain and papers cannot. A book  by Robert Shemin titled, How Come that Idiot’s Rich and I’m Not? Well  most ‘idiots’ outsmart most educated fellows for the simple reason that for their advancement, the ‘idiots’ solely rely on their gut and power of leverage. What is leverage? It is simply using other people’s goodwill, other people’s intelligence, other people’s resources, other people’s influence, other people’s ideas and other people’s contacts

 

June 18, 2016
by Kate Mwamba
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How to mind your own business at a work place

ESTABLISH YOUR BOUNDARIES “Train your colleagues to know that you won’t engage in drama,” Walk away from gossipy or negative conversations. Ask for facts and ignore rumors. Some people thrive on drama—it fills a need for attention or for feeling … Continue reading

June 18, 2016
by Kate Mwamba
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TITTLE TATTLE TALK..

This is a re post but oh well…A gossiper [talebearer, slander] goes around telling secrets; so avoid anyone who talks too much. We are what comes out of our mouths.For those who know me well then you know I love … Continue reading

March 22, 2016
by Kate Mwamba
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No one told me…

Now that am out of the bush, hiding face while laughing, into the clearing i would like share a few things that no one bothers to mention during the pregnancy journey to the time Baby is born. As much as … Continue reading

September 25, 2015
by Kate Mwamba
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…….IN THE HANDS OF A STRANGER

As a mother I feel a grip of fear every time I leave our house and child in the care of others not very well known to us. If my husband and I happen to travel I constantly call home … Continue reading

August 22, 2015
by Kate Mwamba
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A woman who saves…

Though born into slavery Biddy Mason gained freedom for herself and her children in 1856. Only ten years later she had saved enough money to purchase property, making her the first African American women to own land in Los Angeles. … Continue reading

June 13, 2015
by Kate Mwamba
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              UNVENTURED PAST LIFE

      Do you believe that you have had a past life? I do…I certainly believe on the possibility that after death the soul comes back to life in another human form.….Perhaps a different race, socio-economic class, or gender. … Continue reading

May 30, 2015
by Kate Mwamba
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…OF WOMEN AND DOWRY PRICES…

  Being a woman has its pros and cons. Right after birth the perception of beauty and fragility is created in us. The world favours women more than men (I stand corrected). You find even in times of war women … Continue reading

April 29, 2015
by Kate Mwamba
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Networking in its Native form

Networking  by definition is Creating a group of acquaintances and associates and keeping it active through regular communication for  mutual benefit. This did not mean anything to me until I landed in a new country and my only network was my husband whom I had to rely … Continue reading

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