what we don't say out loud.


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This is a re post but oh well…A gossiper [talebearer, slander] goes around telling secrets; so avoid anyone who talks too much. We are what comes out of our mouths.For those who know me well then you know I love inner peace and I avoid stressful people or stressful situations at whatever cost .I take pride in myself in the achievements I have made so far in life because it has been a journey to get here and while am here I will not apologize to anyone for how I or my family lives and why I regard myself highly, if God does not judge me otherwise then any other person’s thoughts and sentiments are irrelevant. If you make decision to stop and throw stones at every dog that barks then you will never reach your destination.

Gossip is that “secret” that people try to conceal with superficial concern and erroneous motives but really it does nothing but stir up conflict because it comes from an impure place. 

Gossiping has two sides to it; first gossiping is when you say something that is true but with the wrong motives causing them to look bad to others. Secondly, gossiping is sharing information with others who were not meant to know such personal details even if without evil intent.

Now let us look at God’s perspective on this gossiping. Proverbs 26:20 tells us, “Without wood fire goes out; without a gossip a conflict dies down.” When you choose to not listen to gossip or to not spread it you help quench the problem. But when we listen to or partake in gossiping our words do nothing but add fuel to an already burning fire.

But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so(James 3:8-10)

Next, Proverbs 20:19 clearly warn us that, “When someone tells you something in confidence do not share it with anyone else. If they want others to know their business let them be the ones to share it. Your job is to listen, support and pray for them. Compromising that trust and spreading gossip to others that are not involved create a bigger problem and that is something God hates. God wants to use a mouth that is not suited for the gutter, but suited for grace

 Being overweight or underweight

Enough with this “I just don’t have time to work out; I have this or that  problem; I just got back from vacation” It doesn’t matter that you don’t replicate the painfully impossible standard of beauty that ruthlessly invades our sore eyes from the altar of billboards and magazines, so STOP justifying it. Own your size — for there is nothing sexier on the planet than being comfortable in your skin. Remember this: Beauty is health. Healthy comes in a plethora of sizes, so as long as you’re treating your body like the sacred temple it is, you’re beautiful.

Children or no children

Let’s get real: We don’t all want the same things out of this precious life, and that’s OK. It’s actually kind of great, for it gives the otherwise dull planet the sparkle of diversity. Whether you bear ten children or none in marriage, the society will talk, whether you bear children of the same sex or unable to bear more children, society will still have something to say. When will society mind its own womb?

Read an interesting article on the same

I understand society has made all of us feel as if we’re missing an essential chip for not wanting children immediately, If you don’t want children, simply don’t have them. You’re still a warm, loving, wonderful, and fabulous and person. You don’t need to sprinkle sugar on the truth by earnestly claiming you have a family history of mental health problems, or your spouse is not in proper order for motherhood, or you will think about it when once in a stable relationship bottom line is just be happy with the path that you choose, the choice is entirely upon you.

Wanting or not to be a career woman

You can still be a liberated, forward-thinking woman while choosing to stay at home with your children. Feminism is doing whatever the hell you want, unabashedly living a life packed with personal happiness and wonderful fulfillment. 

“Reckless spending heaps of our own money”.

Why do you need to justify spending your own hard-earned money on cars, house, steaks, salacious trips, and rounds of top-shelf beer and whatever else it is you feel like to indulge in?. Society will talk whether you choose to constantly justify your spending on the hard earned cash on things that bring you pressure or whether you give away all your cash to charity .In my opinion I say YOLO (you only live once).

Jesus told His followers, “Whatever you have spoken in the dark will be heard in the light, and what you have spoken in the ear in inner rooms will be proclaimed on the housetops” (Luke 12:3). As Believers we must recognize the power that is in the tongue. They have the power to tear others down and even grieve the Holy Spirit. But when our tongues line up with what God proclaims in His Word, we are on the right path.

I sincerely hope I spoke to someone!


Author: Kate Mwamba

Financial and lifestyle blogger

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  1. Interesting read.

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